To be in a state of depression is difficult. More so, to take care of someone especially a loved one with this condition can really be challenging to the point of being draining.  Most people do not get the rationale of this mental condition. For some, it is just a fleeting moment and that you can recover from it in a snap.  By not being able to understand fully the root cause of depression, they get annoyed with the person. They think he is just acting and using it as an excuse to be lazy. Some think of it as just a phase.  Without knowing the main problem that caused the person to be in a depressed state may cause frustration to the companion and worse might drive the unstable person deeper down his cave.

First, it would be important to have a dialogue with the person who is not in his usual being. Try to find out his problems.  Make your presence can be felt by constantly showing him your love and care.  Do not leave his sight or make sure there is somebody to look after him. Be patient. If he is not receptive to your gestures, do not take it personally. Remember he is undergoing a personal crisis and may not be sympathetic to others but just to himself. This is the time that he needs you the most. He may not say it but deep inside of him he is crying out your name for help.

Second, do your research about his case and what are the ways that you could help him bounce back to his normal self.  Search the internet, read books and seek the help of doctors or even those who are experts on this matter.  It will make life a lot easier for you. Do not take it upon yourself that you can do it on your own, that you can save him from his depression. You have no super powers to do so. If you continue to stress yourself about it, you might end up getting depressed as well.

Third, solicit the support of your family members and friends. It will ease your burden and allow you to function better for the one you are taking care of.  It will also help you to be firm about your decisions in dealing with the patient. Being firm with a depressed person is of utmost importance. Your heart may soften when you see them struggling and deprive them of the professional help that they need. It will not make things better.  You have to be sure that all of your actions are geared towards his recovery and improvement.

Of course there will be moments of despair for you as you are only human. It is acceptable. In these times, just be strong and keep the faith alive in you that what you are doing for your father, mother, brother, sister, husband, son, daughter or friend who is undergoing depression is for the best. It will help them in their journey to recover faster.